People are sick of the ugly
mess that Valentine's Day has become. They're sick of the
consumerism, sick of the pressure to buy-buy-buy, sick of being told
by the corporate masters of the universe that the only equation that
matters is Cash = Love.
So says a UNLV researcher who's
just published a paper on the topic. The study by marketing prof
Angeline Close and a colleague from the University of Georgia
spanned several years and featured hundreds of surveys, diaries and
interviews. It was published in the February issue of the Journal of
Business Research.Close says excessive consumerism has spawned
guilt, which forces people to buy stuff, which has led to a nasty
backlash against retailers and the entire You Can Buy Love!
industry.
"They feel it's taking advantage
of people who are in love," she says.
What she means is this: Everybody
knows V-Day is supposed to be about sunny smiles and glorious
rainbows and fluffy puppy dogs, but it has somehow morphed into a
buy-me-a-trinket-with-diamonds-on-it-and-I'll-love-you-forever day
filled with pressure.
People blame big business.
"Some people feel it was invented
by marketers or certain retailers," she says.
This is true for lots of holidays,
of course. Christmas. Mother's Day. Baby's First Birthday.
But none of them, Close says,
spark the kind of animosity that Valentine's Day does.
"I've never seen an anti-Mother's
Day group," she says.
But there are plenty of
anti-Valentine's Day groups.
Gary Huff feels that backlash.
Huff runs a roadside stand for lots
of holidays: Christmas trees for Christmas; a carnival for
Halloween; teddy bears and flowers for Valentine's Day.
"It's crazy. It's ridiculous," Huff
says. "I can't believe it."
He was operating his stand Friday on
Decatur Boulevard across the street from a shuttered Chevrolet
dealership.
It was lunchtime. He'd had three
customers all day.
"Used to be, we had a line of people
at the cash register all day long," he says.
Sure, it's the lousy economy.
Christmas tree sales were half of what they should have been last
year. The spooky carnival's attendance was down two-thirds.
But this Valentine's Day chasm is
about more than that, he says: MegaGiantConglomerateCorporations
have taken over the world.
"You go to Walgreens, they can give
you a dozen for a dollar," he says. "We can't have a dollar a
dozen."
And so he waits. In the cold. Beside
the road. With tables full of cute bears and colorful flowers that
no one wants.
Close, the UNLV researcher, says
not buying stuff is just one reaction from the anti-Valentine's Day
crowd.
Some people boycott certain
retailers. Some avoid spending lots of money, opting instead for a
more personal approach to gift-giving.
They make their own gifts. Or they
do something special for their partner, rather than give something
special.
Ben Harris, who was buying a
heart-shaped box of chocolate Friday for his wife of 28 years, says
he and his wife never feel pressure to buy stuff just for
buying-stuff's sake.
"I don't think gifts are absolutely
necessary," he says. "But when it comes to things like chocolate, it
kind of sweetens things up."
He says the most special Valentine's
Day gift he ever gave his wife didn't cost a penny. He made it
himself.
"I expressed my own feelings about
our relationship over the years," he says. "She was more than happy
about it."
Close says that's the lesson to
take away from her research: That people who reject the overhyped
nature of V-Day are forcing themselves to focus on its real meaning.
They're avoiding excess. They're
professing their love every day, not just on the holiday. The
backlash, in short, is having a positive effect.
"Consumers love the meaning of the
day," Close says. "They're just against the materialism."
Of course, that's not true for
everybody.
She says research
shows that nearly two-thirds of consumers still spend money on
Valentine's Day, despite their general disgust.
Spending on the holiday this
year is expected to top $14 billion.
Source:
Close, Angeline G. and George M.
Zinkhan (2009), “Market Resistance and Valentine's Day Events,”
Journal of Business Research, (62) 2 (Feb), 200-207.